The Bottom Line of Resilience
Young people will be resilient when the important adults in their lives believe in them unconditionally and hold them to high expectations.
Unconditional belief is not blind acceptance. It means that we are not going anywhere and our love is a constant stable force from which children can draw security and confidence. Parents know better than anybody all of the wonderful traits a young person possesses - warmth, humor, caring, idealism, loyalty, passion. You were there as these traits first became evident.
When we speak of “holding a child to high expectations,” it does not refer to demanding high grades or athletic excellence, although it is reasonable to expect a good effort. Rather, it is about always expecting your child to live up to the core values and essential goodness you know lies within. Children who know their parents always see the best within them will live up to those expectations.
Building Resilience in Children and Teens offers strategies to build the seven crucial “Cs” — competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping, and control — so that parents can raise authentically successful children. This invaluable guide also offers coping strategies for facing life’s inevitable stresses. Kids who have healthy strategies in place may be less likely to turn to dangerous fixes to relieve stress. This book from The American Academy of Pediatrics is about building strong, enduring relationships, preventing worrisome behaviors, and raising children who are poised to thrive and lead us into the future.
2011 Gold Award Book of the Year
for Parenting from Foreword Reviews
Kenneth Ginsburg, M.D., M.S. Ed
Dr. Ginsburg is a pediatrician specializing in Adolescent Medicine at The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia and a Professor of Pediatrics at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine. He also serves Philadelphia’s homeless youth as Director of Health Services at Covenant House Pennsylvania. The theme that ties together his clinical practice, teaching, research and advocacy efforts is that of building on the strength of teenagers by fostering their internal resilience. His goal is to translate the best of what is known from research and practice into practical approaches parents, professionals and communities can use to prepare children and teens to thrive.
Families, schools, and communities can prepare children and teens to THRIVE through both good and challenging times. Children and teens who have the seven crucial “Cs” — competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping & control — will be prepared to bounce back from challenges and excel in life.