Resilience is about bouncing back. The challenge is to prepare kids to have the capacity to recover before anything actually goes wrong.

Building Resilience in Children and Teens


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Building Resilience in Children and Teens offers strategies to help kids from 18 months to 18 years build seven crucial “Cs” — competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping, and control — so they can bounce back from challenges and excel in life. The book describes how to raise authentically successful children who will be happy, hardworking, compassionate, creative, and innovative. Dr. Ginsburg reminds parents that our goal is to think in the present and prepare for the future, to remember that our real goal is to raise children to be successful 35-year-olds.  It’s about more than immediate smiles or even good grades; it’s about raising kids to be emotionally and socially intelligent, to be able to recover from disappointment and forge ahead throughout their lives. The stable connection between caring adults and children is the key to the security that allows kids to creatively master challenges and reach their highest potential. This book offers concrete strategies to solidify those vital family connections.

Resilience is also about confronting the overwhelming stress that kids face today. This invaluable guide offers coping strategies for facing the stresses of academic performance, high achievement standards, media messages, peer pressure, and family tension. Young people too commonly survive stress by indulging in unhealthy behaviors or by giving up completely.  The strategies offered here are aimed at building a repertoire of positive coping skills.

Kids who have these healthy strategies in place may be less likely to turn to those quick, easy, but dangerous fixes that adults fear. The book includes a guide for teens to create their own customized positive coping strategies.

The second edition of this already acclaimed book continues to focus on parents, but now also offers wisdom about how schools and communities can best support families. It is updated throughout and entirely new chapters offer strategies on how best to: support military families, confront the negative portrayal of teens, prevent perfectionism and support authentic success. Finally, the book now guides parents on how to recharge and rebound when their own resilience reaches its limits.

Letting Go with Love and Confidence


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Letting Go with Love and Confidence teaches parents how to apply the principles of resilience.  It offers practical advice on everyday “when” questions that challenge parents. When is my child ready to go to the mall? Handle a cell phone? Date? It also addresses “how” to talk about the tough stuff — peer pressure, sex, drugs.

The book helps parents achieve five key goals:

Manage Emotions around Letting Go: Many parents are conflicted about their children growing up. The desire to keep things the way they’ve always been gets in the way of wise parental decisions.  This book addresses the emotional turmoil around letting go, and urges parents to care for themselves, so they can better care for their children.

Reduce Conflict Around the Whens:  It’s the everyday “when can I?” questions that trigger many struggles. Parents will learn to turn potential sources of conflict into opportunities for growth.

Minimize Anxiety Over the Hows:  Certain subjects are tough to talk about and the stakes in getting the conversations right seem so high.  How in the world do you talk about sex? Parents will learn how to approach sensitive subjects with honesty and clarity, increasing the chances they will be heard.

Gain Confidence to Make the Right Decisions: Parenting often seems like a mystery, but it shouldn’t. This book is not a “cookbook”, but it does provide a strategy to apply to each situation. Parents will be better prepared to make decisions because they’ll have new insight into their child’s developmental needs, strengths and challenges.

Understand That Nurturing Independence Is An Act of Love:  Letting go is more than giving up something valuable. The ultimate goal of parenting is to produce a healthy, well-adjusted adult. The gift of independence is a profound expression of parental love.